Are you in a bad relationship?
Relationships are one of the most vital components to a human being's life. If you are in a happy relationship where you feel safe, satisfied and secure, this relationship will bring joy and happiness to your life. However, if you are in a relationship that is controlling or uncertain, it can be anxiety provoking, it can knock your confidence and self esteem or even make you want to escape.
When it comes to relationships, some people are on a power trip. They want to be the one pulling the strings. Sometimes they seem like the nicest person in the world, but the next minute they are aloof and cold. They may even be emotionally, sexually, or physically abusive. It is most likely that they have deep seated issues of their own and their self-esteem is rock bottom. You may go as far as to feel sorry for them, however, it is likely that they are unaware of their own behaviour or they simply don't want to change. Only they can take responsibility for their words and actions. If they need it, they can seek help.
If you are struggling with a relationship that is off and on, emotionally, sexually and or physically abusive, the good news is that you don't have to wait for the other person to change because YOU can. If you want to get this person out of your life, you can work on strengthening your own mental health, confidence and self esteem. Perhaps you tend to be attracted to a particular partner. This is the type of person you feel... not safe with... but comfortable and familiar with. I wonder if your mind can think of a particular person, perhaps in your family, who reminds you of the type you generally find yourself with... did you often feel scared around this family member? Was living in the fear the norm for you growing up? It is often the case, that you find yourself attached to a certain person and you may not even like them, but once you realise where this attachment is stemming from, you can work towards letting this 'type' go.
Another thing to consider, is attachment style. There are three different types of attachment. First is the anxiously attached where someone might worry about their partner's every move; whether they love them or if they are going to abandon them in some way. Second is the avoidant attachment style. This type of person wants to avoid conflict at all costs, they tend to need a lot of space and they fear getting close to people. Finally is the secure attachment style when they person has an open heart, is comfortable with rejection and is confident that if their relationship doesn't work out that they can meet someone else.
Attachment styles can change and the aim of therapy would be to allow insecure attachment styles, namely anxious and avoidant to become more secure so that they can enjoy happier, healthier relationships. Although ironically, these opposite attachment styles are often drawn to each other despite the anguish of being together, both would benefit from a relationship with a someone who has a secure attachment style. Therefore, breaking the attachment that is formed in the early years as well as boosting self-esteem is essential.
If you would like to know more about how hypnotherapy can increase your confidence and self esteem as well as improve your relationships, please contact me through my website for your free telephone consultation: www.diamondwellbeing.co.uk
